Once, a Saint while speaking to Sai, was complaining about his sewadharis. He said nowadays they do not even help to carry his luggage. Sai smilingly said, “They are our sewadharis, they are not our coolies. We should always learn to do our own chores and not expect that someone else will come to provide us our daily meals. We must always help ourselves and learn to be self sufficient in every way.”
Sai also says we should not keep any expectations from our own children, because if they are not fulfilled we feel distressed.
Expectations are a major cause of our misery !